The Superpower of Empathy with Figs O’Sullivan

“Empathy is seeing the eyes of another, listening with the ears of another, and feeling with the heart of another.”

Alfred Adler 

Episode Highlights:

• How we can streghthen our relationships and deepen our connection
• The superpower of empathy

About Figs O’Sullivan

Figs is a couples therapist and the creator of the Empathi method and the certification process for Empathy coaches. He’s also Chief Empathy Officer, husband, dad, wounded-healer and was featured on NPR’s All Things Considered as a champion for healthy relationships.

Figs’ life’s mission is to help couples feel more connected.

What You’ll Learn

09:24 On his happy place before he dies

11:49 Being a wounded healer

13:22 The most important skill being a therapist is being able to become your clients

15:59 The empathic experience

16:46 Empathy vs vulnerability story

19:21 Ways we react to try not to feel our primary emotions

21:46 Work on feeling your feelings better

28:25 Are you there for me? Am I enough for you?

32:51 A meaningful repair

35:47 What the empathic experience is

39:25 The terror of the attachment disconnection

42:56 On the risk of being a disappointment

44:35 On why men (or women) shutdown

Figs O’Sullivan’s Links

• Instagram (personal): https://www.instagram.com/fiachrafigs/
• Website: https://empathi.com/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/empathi/
• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnPbjlO6Q0KBXVHXeGyivlw
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empathinow/
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/empathinow
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EmpathiNow/
• The place I’ll go before I die: https://medium.com/thrive-global/the-place-ill-go-before-i-die-c10f87829a82