The Savage Gentleman with MMA Fighter Josh Tyler

Life can often feel like a cage fight. Punches fly at us from every angle. We’re swept off of our feet and tackled to the ground. Sometimes we’re straight up knocked out. And if we aren’t prepared to battle, we might never get back up.

Today’s guest is MMA fighter Josh Tyler. He is also the co-founder of Savage Gentleman, a retail brand and ethos that believes that men are both savages and gentlemen.

Josh is here to reveal his secret to remaining calm in the chaos of the cage. He tells us how to employ emotional intelligence, communication, and self-awareness in a masculine way. Josh also talks about how he’s applied what he’s learned as an MMA fighter to family life.

“The world is full of savages and gentlemen. Rare is it to find a man who can be both.”

Josh Tyler and the Savage Gentleman

“The world is full of savages and gentlemen. Rare is it to find the man who can be both. It is not ideal void of all traits of masculinity, nor is it suitable to succumb to one’s every base desire. There must be a balance struck between the two sides of the same coin that is manhood. This is the plight of the savage gentlemen, to cultivate both aspects of his being and achieve his full potential.”

What You’ll Learn

• Growing up, Josh was not athletic. He wanted to become a scientist.
• How Josh managed to remain internally calm during the external chaos of the ring
• How to perform a stress evaluation
• Your body doesn’t recognize the difference between stresses.
• You can take the stress tolerance from the situations you’re used to and apply it to other areas.
• Use times of success in the past as reference points.
• Seek new experiences to push your limits further.
• How marriage is like a cage fight
• How to balance the savage gentleman
• Learning how to operate in tandem with another human being (like in marriage) can help in business and other relationships.
• Men are woefully ill-equipped to enter into a partnership with someone of the opposite sex.
• Just like in the world of fighting, how can you win in marriage when you don’t know the rules or spent enough time training? You have no context to realize what you’re good at and where you need work.
• Knowing where your weak spots are allows you to solve those problems.
• Ignoring your feelings prevents you from finding the root cause.
• You have to take responsibility to learn how to communicate better.
• You do feel stuff, whether you admit it or not, and you will receive what you put out.
• The secret is to understand where your anger is coming from.
• Most people go through life with very little thought and reflection on the what and why.
• Self-awareness and personal development are not for wusses.
• Pay attention and notice the cues of where you need to focus your awareness.
• There are appropriate times to be vulnerable.
• In marriage, if you don’t let someone in to know you on a deep level, you end up growing apart and not knowing who each other are anymore.
• Bitterness and resentment change your perception of someone.
• Sometimes the best thing in marriage is to have the fight.
• Avoiding confrontation and letting stuff go for too long destroys the chance of ever getting back on track.
• Develop a Standard Operating Procedure for how to handle tough arguments with your spouse.
• People are getting worse at interfacing with each other in meaningful ways because of technology and distraction.
• But first, we need to learn how to interface with ourselves better.

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