Laura Heck – 5 Dirty Words That Will Pick Fights In Your Marriage

Laura Heck is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist, and Sex Therapist in private practice working exclusively with couples to manage conflict and deepen intimacy and pleasure. Laura is also the co-host of Marriage Therapy Radio with Zach Brittle since 2017, where straight-talking marriage therapists and guests tackle the most common complaints virtually every relationship experience.

Laura shares insights from her experience as a marriage and sex therapist, highlighting the importance of maintaining a strong friendship foundation in a relationship. She emphasizes the significance of curiosity, admiration, and attentiveness towards one’s partner to foster a deep connection and understanding.

The conversation delves into the concept of shared purpose and vision in a relationship, showcasing how aligning goals and aspirations can strengthen the bond between partners. Laura also touches on the common pitfalls in communication, such as using extreme language like “always” and “never,” which can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts.

Larry’s Takeaways

1. Avoid using “always” or “never” in arguments.
2. Focus on building a strong friendship foundation.
3. Shared purpose strengthens relationships.

What You’ll Learn

00:01:49 – Laura’s Journey to Therapy

00:03:50 – Personal Question on Therapist’s Life

00:05:25 – Sexually Relevant Information

00:06:38 – Gratitude in Marriage

00:07:00 – Learning from Clients’ Mistakes

00:08:11 – Traits of Successful Couples

00:10:03 – The Four Horsemen of Relationships

00:11:43 – Dog Interruption and Types

00:13:33 – Replacing Negative Behaviors

00:16:04 – Personal Reflections on Defensiveness

00:20:03 – Therapy Insights for Larry

00:22:10 – Friendship in Marriage

00:24:17 – Being Observant in Relationships

00:27:51 – Shared Vision and Purpose

00:31:34 – Purpose Beyond Parenting

00:33:22 – Aligning Shared Visions

00:36:03 – Salvageable Relationship Situations

00:39:19 – Five Dirty Words That Pick Fights

00:42:42 – Always and Never in Arguments

Links

Register for The Seven Principles Workshop here: www.marriagetherapyradio.com/seven-principles-workshop

www.laurahecktherapy.com

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